One thing I've learning in coaching is consistency doesn't have to be daily or weekly or monthly. Things happen. We have work, family, and all sorts of things that come up. Having the mindset of going back to it is the hardest part. You also don't have to set strict time limits on workouts or any task. Maybe some days you can squeeze in 5 minutes because that's better than none. You can't pour from an empty cup so please take care of yourself! You are worth it!
I once (and only once) have myself permission to not work out for 3 months. It was after my first guy was born. I was not adjusted, life was different and I kept daily beating myself up, calling myself lazy, and then one day I said, give yourself a break and don't beat yourself up every single damn day for not working out. But once that time is over it's on. Haven't looked back in 11 years but at that moment in time that was exactly what I needed
We are not designed to multitask; granted, the caveat is in the kitchen when we are cooking.
A morning routine should align with you, not just because everyone else does it. For myself, it is get up, get a drink of water, meditate, then start my day. What I have done is keep a small notebook in the kitchen of the small stuff that needs to get done. I write everything down before I go to bed. (Meditation, I am on day 1,915; my goal is to break the Calm app.)
It is a simple acceptance for me that even though I have a morning routine, there will be disruptions, and the intention is to adjust when required. Today, my parents had medical appointments this morning, so working out wasn't going to happen. The only gap I struggle with is taking a daily walk. Having long Covid last year messed me up.
I had a call with a friend of mine last week, and we talked about the solution I am creating. He asked me how it was progressing. I was transparent, letting him know I had run into another roadblock, and he called me out on it. The next day, I found the dataset I could use. Last week, routines were disrupted, and I promised myself I would spend an hour a day working on it. (Last week, I was part of the project to launch a new website, and I was reminded what that felt like.) Yesterday it was simple, I tell myself when I hesitate, “Show myself I can do it.” Instead of one hour, it became two hours, and it didn't feel like two hours, and there is clarity and progress.
What it comes down to is not being hard on yourself when things get disrupted. It is understood that there will be moments when you have to adjust to events beyond your control.
Here is the thought: you are allowed to feel those feelings, but do not stay in them. Ask yourself what you can do to move out of that state. It is the simplest action that can shift your frame of mind. For myself, even last night I was exhausted. I am sitting on the couch and could have crashed, but I told myself, “Neil, show yourself you can do it.” I will put it to you this way, Sunday for me is preparation for my work week. My phone rings at 8 am, and it is my mom. Can I come over? My father has fallen. Thankfully, it was minor, and he is okay. I came home, and my stress level was high. I said, "Okay, I am going to eat breakfast, work out, and then start my day." I moved through it and got myself on track.
meditation is all about constantly starting over. its also about doing so without judgement. seems like an apt analogy here. admire you as always. btw, we're overdue for a reconnect.
Love Daily Stoic and have gotten some good food for thought from all of Holiday's books. For me the need for routine is to keep that presence to focus on the things that take time by necessity such as health and even stuff like keeping the house clean. I actually am wired to be more of an ER doc but I need the balance of routine and process.
Love this. We all have a different vibe we resonate with, i think a lot of the work is rejecting the default of who we think we are supposed to be to discover who we actually are and how we work best. Years of corporate has forced us all to fit into the same pre-defined box and that has never worked to get the most of people.
One thing I've learning in coaching is consistency doesn't have to be daily or weekly or monthly. Things happen. We have work, family, and all sorts of things that come up. Having the mindset of going back to it is the hardest part. You also don't have to set strict time limits on workouts or any task. Maybe some days you can squeeze in 5 minutes because that's better than none. You can't pour from an empty cup so please take care of yourself! You are worth it!
love that
I once (and only once) have myself permission to not work out for 3 months. It was after my first guy was born. I was not adjusted, life was different and I kept daily beating myself up, calling myself lazy, and then one day I said, give yourself a break and don't beat yourself up every single damn day for not working out. But once that time is over it's on. Haven't looked back in 11 years but at that moment in time that was exactly what I needed
i'm back on it but it's been a really difficult challenge to start back up again. Still not on a daily cadence that i'd like but getting there.
Perhaps find a workout buddy online to help with the workout habit.
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We are not designed to multitask; granted, the caveat is in the kitchen when we are cooking.
A morning routine should align with you, not just because everyone else does it. For myself, it is get up, get a drink of water, meditate, then start my day. What I have done is keep a small notebook in the kitchen of the small stuff that needs to get done. I write everything down before I go to bed. (Meditation, I am on day 1,915; my goal is to break the Calm app.)
It is a simple acceptance for me that even though I have a morning routine, there will be disruptions, and the intention is to adjust when required. Today, my parents had medical appointments this morning, so working out wasn't going to happen. The only gap I struggle with is taking a daily walk. Having long Covid last year messed me up.
I had a call with a friend of mine last week, and we talked about the solution I am creating. He asked me how it was progressing. I was transparent, letting him know I had run into another roadblock, and he called me out on it. The next day, I found the dataset I could use. Last week, routines were disrupted, and I promised myself I would spend an hour a day working on it. (Last week, I was part of the project to launch a new website, and I was reminded what that felt like.) Yesterday it was simple, I tell myself when I hesitate, “Show myself I can do it.” Instead of one hour, it became two hours, and it didn't feel like two hours, and there is clarity and progress.
What it comes down to is not being hard on yourself when things get disrupted. It is understood that there will be moments when you have to adjust to events beyond your control.
"What it comes down to is not being hard on yourself when things get disrupted. I" -- this is where i REALLY struggle.
Here is the thought: you are allowed to feel those feelings, but do not stay in them. Ask yourself what you can do to move out of that state. It is the simplest action that can shift your frame of mind. For myself, even last night I was exhausted. I am sitting on the couch and could have crashed, but I told myself, “Neil, show yourself you can do it.” I will put it to you this way, Sunday for me is preparation for my work week. My phone rings at 8 am, and it is my mom. Can I come over? My father has fallen. Thankfully, it was minor, and he is okay. I came home, and my stress level was high. I said, "Okay, I am going to eat breakfast, work out, and then start my day." I moved through it and got myself on track.
meditation is all about constantly starting over. its also about doing so without judgement. seems like an apt analogy here. admire you as always. btw, we're overdue for a reconnect.
Love that and you are correct. On both notes.
Love Daily Stoic and have gotten some good food for thought from all of Holiday's books. For me the need for routine is to keep that presence to focus on the things that take time by necessity such as health and even stuff like keeping the house clean. I actually am wired to be more of an ER doc but I need the balance of routine and process.
Love this. We all have a different vibe we resonate with, i think a lot of the work is rejecting the default of who we think we are supposed to be to discover who we actually are and how we work best. Years of corporate has forced us all to fit into the same pre-defined box and that has never worked to get the most of people.